Long Island Institute of Sex Therapy (LIIST)

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Therapy by Phone or Video Chat [Can Suck]. Here’s How to Make It Better.

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LIIST has been providing video therapy for years. We do still think in-person sessions are best because we believe we can better attune with our clients. This pandemic has encouraged all of our sessions to move to video. So far, we are very happy with the results.

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person holding MacBook in car with black interior

Our greatest concern for the feasibility of online sessions was with regard to couples. In our sessions with couples, we have figured out some great workarounds. One of our favorite new techniques is to have each partner participate from separate devices in separate parts of a home. Interestingly, we are finding that couples are doing a better job of turn-taking in conversations during these video therapy sessions!

This article in Vice by Caitlin Flynn outlines more ideas for continuing to ensure you’re getting the most out of your video therapy sessions.

Looking for some support?

If you would like some support for your relationship, or your sex life, feel free to reach out to us. LIIST has an outstanding team of therapists. We specialize in helping individuals, couples and relationships navigate difficult times.

It’s okay to break up with someone right now

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Dr. Torrisi was interviewed for this article in Vice by Hannah Smothers.

“[Dr. Torrisi], a certified sex therapist based in New York, told VICE that this moment is essentially a compatibility test for a lot of couples, old and new. The coronavirus pandemic is going to reveal not just how they respond to this specificsituation, but also how they might deal with other rough life moments. “Being in a high-stress moment for a long period of time in a relationship… that’s gonna happen,” Torrisi said. “Whether it’s COVID[-19], or someone getting really sick, losing money, or losing a job, there’s a million ways that you will be stressed in a long-term relationship. This is one of those moments.”

How to Tell Your Partner You Want to Go to Couples Therapy

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Dr. Torrisi is quoted in this Vice article with some great advice about bringing up this important conversation and what to do if you partner is resistant.

Timing and TTC

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08502a85-1af3-4aff-bf43-8fe66fd20ed9-romperstock_ab-3022Dr. Torrisi offers some very advice on approaching sex when trying to conceive (TCC) for Romper. Read here for more! Interested in learning more about sex and pregnancy? The therapists at LIIST are experts in helping couples retain and regain intimacy before, during, and after pregnancy. And for some extra support, consider visiting with a pelvic physical therapist after giving birth. Give us a call at 516-690-6779.

LIIST on the Radio talking about Sex Addiction

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Did you listen to Rosara Torrisi on LI News Radio this evening with host David Levenstein and author/advocate Frank Vetro? Curious about sex addiction or out of control sexual behavior? Call us at 516-690-6779 or email us at RosaraTorrisi@lisextherapy.com. In collaboration with with Peter Kanaris in Smithtown, we have weekly therapy groups for both the identified client and a separate group for their spouses or significant others.

Q&A at Jericho High School

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Rosara Torrisi, 2015 Best Sex Therapist on Long Island, was recently invited and presented to a group of high school students in Jericho for the second year in a row. All of the students were eager to ask sexologist, Rosara Torrisi about her work as a therapist, her work as a sex therapist, and some education about healthy sexuality. Here are some of the questions and answers. Continue reading

Toxic Families

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From a yoga blogger, this is a wonderful post about how to deal with a toxic family or family member. Especially in this season of holidays and family gatherings, it can be very difficult for those who feel disconnected from or hurt by someone in their family. Take a moment to read this article’s 12 suggestions. If you are struggling through the holidays and dreading to be with your family, know that you deserve to feel loved, cared for, respected and appreciated. Call Rosara Torrisi today at 516-690-6779 or email her at RosaraTorrisiLMSW@gmail.com to ensure that next year’s holiday season is filled with joy and happiness for you.

Gay Couples Lead Marriage in to the 21st Century

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What if the critics are correct…What if same-sex marriage does change marriage, but primarily for the better?

By providing a new model of how two people can live together equitably, same-sex marriage could help haul matrimony more fully into the 21st century. Although marriage is in many ways fairer and more pleasurable for both men and women than it once was, it hasn’t entirely thrown off old notions and habits. As a result, many men and women enter into it burdened with assumptions and stereotypes that create stress and resentment. Others, confronted with these increasingly anachronistic expectations—expectations at odds with the economic and practical realities of their own lives—don’t enter into it at all.

Read more in the Atlantic article. 

Help Your Marriage Last Longer

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This article in the Scientific American, entitled How To Have A Longer Marriage Than Kim Kardashian is a wonderful synopsis of the publications by John and Julie Gottman and their colleagues.

Gottman and colleagues have uncovered four crucially toxic behaviors that are bound to end your romantic relationship– contempt, criticism, stonewalling, and defensiveness

If you want to stop fighting and start loving again, contact Rosara Torrisi to reignite the passion in your relationship. 

You can call Rosara at 516-690-6779 or email her at RosaraTorrisiLMSW@gmail.com.