Long Island Institute of Sex Therapy (LIIST)

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Vote for Rosara Torrisi

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I am nominated for Long Island Press’ Best Sex Therapist of Long Island this year! I would really appreciate it if you would cast your vote as many times as you can and spread the word! You can vote once a day per computer. Here are instructions on how to vote:

1.  Visit this link to vote: http://tinyurl.com/VoteForRosaraTorrisi

2.  Scroll down to “Sex Therapist”

3.  Select Rosara Torrisi, LMSW- Plainview

4.  Accept the terms and conditions

5.  Cast your vote!

6. Repeat steps 1-5 daily :)

Indiana University/Kinsey Institute Study About Sex and Porn

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The Kinsey Institute in Indiana is a pioneer in research that helps us all better understand sexuality from multiple perspectives. Rosara Torrisi knows some of the researchers personally and they are professional, brilliant, and respectful. If you have some time and if you have any interest, please consider participating in this online and confidential study.

College Students and Sexually Explicit Media

You are invited to participate in a research study about college student’s sexual behaviors and exposure to sexually explicit media. You were selected as a possible subject because you may have read or responded to a recruitment notice related to college students sexual behaviors and exposure to pornography. We ask that you read this form and ask any questions you may have before agreeing to be in the study. 

You must identify as college or university student who is at least 18 years of age to participate in this this study. 

The study is being conducted by Dr. Debby Herbenick in the Department of Applied Health Science in the School of Public Health.

STUDY PURPOSE

The purpose of this survey is to better understand sexual behaviors among college students and porn’s influence on sexual experiences. 

PROCEDURES FOR THE STUDY:

If you agree to be in the study, you will do the following things:

You will be asked to complete an anonymous questionnaire that asks about your background (e.g., age, gender) as well as your feelings and experiences related to sexual activity and viewing pornography. It takes approximately 10-15 minutes to complete the survey. A total of 500 college students are being recruited for participation in this study. 

CONFIDENTIALITY

As this study involves the anonymous completion of questionnaires, we ask that you do not type your name or any other identifying information into the survey. As such, your survey responses will not be able to be connected to your identity in any way. Efforts will be made to keep your personal information confidential. We cannot guarantee absolute confidentiality. Your personal information may be disclosed if required by law. 

Organizations that may inspect and/or copy your research records for quality assurance and data analysis include groups such as the study investigator and his/her research associates, the IUB Institutional Review Board or its designees, and (as allowed by law) state or federal agencies, specifically the Office for Human Research Protections (OHRP) who may need to access your research records.

PAYMENT

You will not receive payment for taking part in this study

CONTACTS FOR QUESTIONS OR PROBLEMS

For questions about the study, contact the researcher, Dr. Debby Herbenick, at 812.855.7011 or debby@indiana.edu.

For questions about your rights as a research participant or to discuss problems, complaints or concerns about a research study, or to obtain information, or offer input, contact the IU Human Subjects Office at (812) 856-4242 or (800) 696-2949.

VOLUNTARY NATURE OF STUDY

Taking part in this study is voluntary. You may choose not to take part or may leave the study at any time. Leaving the study will not result in any penalty or loss of benefits to which you are entitled. Your decision whether or not to participate in this study will not affect your current or future relations with the investigators. 

HERE’S THE LINK.

This is the home that love built

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I rarely post something religious, but I found this meditation to resonate with my practice as a therapist for couples, relationships and individuals. What are your thoughts? How does love fortify your home? How is your home a refuge for you and your family? What joys and sorrys and mundane tasks has your home held you through? Sundays aren’t the only Sabbath days, how do you make time to care for yourself in whatever way is needed by you?

The Home That Love Made
Amanda Poppei

This is the home that love made.

It is full of the love that the founders felt, when they planned out these walls and raised these beams above us.

This is the home that love made.

It is full of the love of all who have worshipped here; those who have celebrated and grieved here; the babies dedicated, couples married, and family members mourned here.

This is the home that love made.

It is full of the love of our children, as they learn and laugh together, and our youth, as they grow into their own sense of purpose and meaning.

This is the home that love made.

It is full of the love of the staff who have served it, full of their hopes for this congregation, their hard work and their acts of dedication.

This is the home that love made.

It is full of the love of the choir, the love made so clear in the voices lifted here on Sunday morning.

This is the home that love made.

It is full of our love, the love of this community, despite our differences and our disagreements, the love that holds us together as a people.

This is the home that love made. Can you feel it?

May the love be with us always.

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What to do when your kids walk in on you

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From the wonderful Logan levkoff:

“What happens if my kids walk in on us having sex?” And it’s not just something that I see in my practice; 17 percent of moms inSheKnows’ “Secret Life of Moms” survey have admitted to being interrupted while in the throes of passion. So while that may seem mortifying, the likelihood is that it can (and just may) happen at some point in your life. So prepare accordingly.

#1 Don’t panic. You really don’t know what they saw (or heard). (Yes, I’ve been walked in on. My kid didn’t bat an eyelash; she just wanted breakfast.)

Read more…

I Am Not Trapped In My Body

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“I am not trapped in my body, I am trapped in other people’s perceptions of my body.” This is an oustabding video of a slam poet describing her experiences of the gender binary that holds us all down. #LetsTalkAboutIt

Why Libido Should Not Ride Shotgun

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From Janne Robinson, we get a brutally frank discussion about the pulling forces when libido attempts to take the lead in your life. “Without love sex is like a grade six dance where our souls hold each other two feet away so we may engage at a distance- without the vulnerability, without the scariness, without intertwining our souls in salty, sweaty, sweet togetherness. The space between us makes it safe and also lacking of all the joy making love can be.” Well put- as is her advice: “Knowing our intent before we engage with another person is powerful and important. It’s never worth compromising your heart, or body if what you desire is not mutually shared with another person.

Q & A re: Squirting

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Question:
A few weeks ago a friend told me that she is very embarrassed that she squirts when her boyfriend goes down on her. Is there a way she can stop squirting?

Rosara’s Answer:
I would suggest that moreso than looking to stop something her body is doing naturally she consider exploring her feelings about ejaculating during oral sex. If it’s something that is causing her considerable distress, even after exploring and resolving the influence of social pressures/norms, then she can likely learn through sex therapy ways in which to prevent her ejaculations during oral sex. I rarely counsel clients to close off sexual experiences unless they cause unwanted harm to themselves or others. I believe what may be most helpful for this young woman would be to work closely with a therapist on discussing her thoughts and feelings surrounding these experiences, her own reactions, the reactions of her partners, etc. and then coming to her own informed conclusions about whether she would like to stop experiencing her body’s natural reaction to receiving pleasure from oral sex. In the meantime, if she’d like to stop ejaculating and only does so during oral sex, for the time being, she might consider not engaging in oral sex with a partner.