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Shame and Guilt

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I was recently forwarded an article about guilt and its connection to mood disorders.

What this article seems to miss is the more important issue of shame. Guilt and shame are somewhat different but what’s important about shame is that it moves from the act to the person. Shame becomes internalized as a reflection of one’s whole self.

Excessive shame or shame in key areas of identity (such as sexuality or bodily functions) degrades one’s concept of self. This degradation is a perfect incubator for both mood disorders and personality disorders. If someone lacks a strong sense of self, they don’t believe in their ability to succeed– whether in the boardroom or the bedroom.

A degradation of a sexual sense of self through internalized shame is something many experience, especially women and LGBT individuals. This internalized sexual and bodily shame is at the core of many sexual difficulties. Sexuality disorders such as difficulties reaching orgasm and even sexual pain disorders are common results of internalized shame.

Along with mood disorders and sexuality related disorders, researchers have also found links between internalized shame and physical health. Racism has has been found to lead to poor cardiac health. Internalized homophobia can result in higher rates of cancer.

What we experience as “just” psychological can have cascading emotional and physical affects.

About Rachel Hoffman, LMSW

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Rachel Hoffman is a licensed social worker who has considerable experience working with teens and young adults. With an eclectic therapy style, Rachel has treated people with symptoms of depression and anxiety, especially those going through life-transitions such as break-ups, divorce or the death of a loved one.

Rachel is also a contributing writer for Elite Daily, focusing on the influence of technology on dating. Rachel ran an initiative for single parents living in the Queens area and run support groups for single parents and their children. Additionally, Rachel assists patients as a social worker on both the Oncology and Obstetrics units at the NYU Langone Medical Center.

Rachel is a member of both AASECT and NASW and is currently in graduate school earning her PhD in Human Sexuality.

Q&A at Jericho High School

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Rosara Torrisi, 2015 Best Sex Therapist on Long Island, was recently invited and presented to a group of high school students in Jericho for the second year in a row. All of the students were eager to ask sexologist, Rosara Torrisi about her work as a therapist, her work as a sex therapist, and some education about healthy sexuality. Here are some of the questions and answers. Continue reading

How to use gender pronouns

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Having a hard time figuring out how to use a gender prounoun you’re not used to yet? This fun little app let’s you plug in a gender pronoun (she, he, they, xe, ze, ey, hir, fae, and hu) — perhaps yours, a friend’s, your child’s or parent’s– and understand how it’s used as a subject, object, posessive, and reflexive in a sentence. Try it!

Trans Research Opportunity

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As a PhD student, I am often in contact with other researchers seeking participants for their studies. Lately, it has been wonderful to view the growing number of strengths-based studies for transgendered individuals. Below is information for one of those studies.

LOOKING FOR TRANSGENDER PERSONS
This researcher will explore the experiences of transgender adults as they tell their story about how and when they negotiated their personal path to their true gender including the influence of their family of origin, friends, and professional colleagues.  
My name is Gerard Cavanaugh MS, LPC, LMFT and I am a doctoral candidate in Family Therapy at Texas Woman’s University, in Denton, Texas. I am conducting a research study in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the PhD in Family Therapy at Texas Woman’s University. My study is titled:
“I Want to Be Who I Am”: A Phenomenological Study of How Transgender Persons Viewed the Changes in Their Families as They Negotiated the Path to Their True Gender.
This study involves recruiting (15 minutes), filling out a demographic questionnaire and signing a consent form (up to 15 minutes) and a face-to-face interview lasting up to 60 minutes. You can be at any place along the path to your true gender, or you have completed the journey. You may bring a trusted family member or fictive family member to the interview. The interview will consist of exploring your experiences as you grew up in your family of origin, which family values were influential to you as you negotiated your path to your new gender, and how you describe your disclosure to family, friends, and professional colleagues.
Participants must be age 18 or over. Family or fictive family members (persons not related to family members, yet considered part of the family) must be 18 or older. Participation is voluntary and you may, or your family member may, withdraw at any time. You may ask questions at any time using e-mail, phone, or during our face-to-face time.
If you are interested and willing to participate in this study please contact:
Gerard Cavanaugh 817-992-8034 or at gcavanaugh@twu.edu.
If you know someone who might be interested in participating in this study, please share this information with them.  There is a stipend of $10 for every participant if that person completes the interview. You are free to withdraw from this study at any time.
There is a potential risk of loss of confidentiality in all E-mail, or Internet transactions.

Positive Reviews For TRANS The Movie

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“When someone says to me, ‘What is this film about?’ I say, ‘It’s about human rights, injustice and discrimination,’” Mark Schoen, producer of “TRANS,” said. “And what I’ve learned is the gender spectrum is much wider than I ever thought it was and you know it’s not just transgender. There’s intersex, there’s genderqueer. I think the important thing is that we have to, as a society, let people be their authentic selves, whatever that may be.”- from The Eastern Echo