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Shely Esses, LMFT

Shely Esses holds a marriage and family therapy (MFT) graduate degree from Iona University.

Shely is guided by a systemic lens, a way of seeing you as an individual with interpersonal and wider-world impacts on your life. She is passionate about helping people feel comfortable in their own skin. She is delighted to help individuals, couples, and families find balance and healing in their lives.

She is knowledgeable about the Orthodox community, ensuring clients feel understood halachically while discussing mental and physical health. She is also skilled at helping clients with pre-and post-marriage halachot.

Shely focuses on helping clients experiencing discomfort or anxiety about their sexual self-esteem, self-worth, and relationships. She is particularly interested in working with often overlooked or underserved communities, such as those in conservative religious minority groups and people in alternative relationships. Shely is skilled at weaving together practical and holistic techniques to promote nervous system regulation & deep mindfulness. 

She is trained in Levels 1 and 2 of the Gottman Relationship Therapy Method and is a member in good standing of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).

Gender pronouns and titles: She/Her, Mrs.


Shely is amazing! She’s helped me learn how to set healthy boundaries and practice self-care. She’s helped me not feel shamed or guilty for actions out of my control. She continually provides support, good advice, and encouragement. Shely is attentive and compassionate, while remaining professional. I feel blessed that I found her, as she has helped me tremendously in my growth and healing process. ~ AW 

I can say that she really helped me find out a ton about myself and what I want in my life. She made me feel extremely comfortable discussing anything and was patient with me throughout every session. Shely provided me with the tools to better navigate my romantic relationships and helped me learn how to communicate better with those in my life. I never felt neglected or not listened to. She was very professional and helpful. I would recommend her to anyone I know. ~ RA

To be quite honest, Shely changed my life. She really assisted me in asking the tougher and more deep rooted questions about my issues. And I did enjoy the “slight ethnic differences yet close related in age” dynamic she provided. It was all really impactful. ~ HB